Love Facts 101

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Have you ever found yourself in a bad relationship? But you thinking you love this person, you didn't want to get out of it? Whats a relationship, if one side of the union is not happy? In this situation you must recognize a bad relationship when your in one, to save yourself of the hurt and stress it can cause you. 

 Signs of being in a bad relationship:

In a bad relationship, the person you are with does not show you much respect. Ignoring you, taking advantage of you, not showing you love or affection. In this type of relationship it is very one-sided. Relationships should be equal in all aspects of love, respect and caring for one another. The feeling of a one-sided relationship is not very happy at all. You often think to yourself, Why am I in this relationship? He/she is not treating me the way I deserve to be treated. Some people think that it will get better - he/she will change. Also we seem to live in the past, at the beginning of this relationship it could have been harmonious and having equality. Another thing our minds confuse us with is Love. In a relationship people are blind to all things and cease to see the bigger picture. They often think that if they love this person - to stay with them. You say to yourself he/she is not breaking up with me, they must want to stay with me. Honestly, if they are treating you with disrespect and don't acknowledge your feelings then they are subconsciously hinting that they don't care for you. This happens to many people that are trapped in the idea of love. You must recognize this relationship is not working and get out of it. It only will cause you pain and self doubt. A person in a relationship like this will never be truly happy. 

What not to do when dating:

Sometimes, guys and girls think its okay to talk to others of the opposite sex when in a relationship. That they are doing nothing wrong by flirting with someone of the opposite sex, or taking other matters further than just flirting. They think that when in a committed relationship they can do whatever they want. If in your relationship, that is the case then your partner is very immature and not ready for a serious relationship. If they think that it is not disrespectful to their mate to talk to other girls/guys then they have no knowledge of what a loving relationship is truly about. A true relationship is about trust, loyalty, communication and the love you share with your partner. A person shouldn't have to put up with someone who lies, is untrustworthy and doesn't show respect. In this relationship you should take the time out to think to yourself - Is this what I really deserve? Someone who disrespects me, someone I am not able to trust? Nobody deserves disrespect. As much as you may think you love this person, I advise you to take a look at your relationship and think of YOU. Always do what's in the best interest for you. You are all you truly have to protect yourself in this world. You hold the key to your future, making the decisions and life choices. Do not ignore the signs of a guy or girl getting cozy with a member of the opposite sex when they have in fact made a commitment to you. It is not okay, don't listen to them when they say they did nothing wrong. This type of person will try to turn it around on you and make you feel like the one who's wrong for bringing it up. Do not listen to them. If you feel it's wrong it most likely is.

If there is an EX in the picture:

If your significant other cannot get over his ex then there is a problem. Do you realize your partner bringing up an ex a lot? If this is the case then they are not over them. They might feel anger or resentment towards them or they still might be in love with this person. While they are with you and talking about their ex, it is very disrespectful. Especially if they are comparing you constantly to them thats like saying "Oh I wish you were my ex right now, she/he was better." Whether it be they hate their ex or still love their ex, somehow their past relationship is still on their mind. Moving forward into a new relationship can be extremely hard when you have an ex on the mind - You can't be in love with two people at once. A relationship simply cannot work if you are in love with your ex, rather than the person you are with. If you find yourself in this kind of relationship where an ex is the issue, then take a step back, take things slow and let this person learn to move on if she/he can. Or If you don't feel enough chemistry, then let this relationship go. You cannot move forward being stuck in the past. Being in this type of relationship might not even be worth it.